Whether it is law enforcement or another thing either method, she’s gunna bring you down if nothing changes and you’ll become exactly like her very quickly. And that’s when shit shall get intolerable for the both of you.
So tell some body, it won’t just conserve her life, but in addition yours. Obviously it really isn’t making her any happier as things are. So the two of you can benefit.
Wow. This is certainly verbatim my situation. Its been 8 months and I’m currently afraid of just how she may self destruct if I attempted to get rid of the connection.
She speaks like I’m the sole thing that is good her life and I also believe she undoubtedly feels like that. She’s got a home that is comfortable it is in a continuing state of conflict along with her moms and dads due to exactly how she is ‘treated’. Namely them looking to get her away on the very own after graduating and looking for a work. She’s in a continuing state of ‘less unfortunate’ in the best of that time period. I’ve attempted to think about techniques to break it well that won’t make her hate by by herself, like saying I’m homosexual or having buddies pose as medication dealers and freak her away by having them threaten me personally when she’s around. It’s bad and I also feel therefore caught.
See the guide “co-dependent no more”. You will be an enabler when you accept others issues to your point where they become your. It’s very common, but the cycle must be broken by you. You’re not in charge of the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors or other people. The 3 C’s: You didn’t Cause it, you can’t get a grip on it, you can’t Cure it.